Welcome those who are weak in faith, but not for the purpose of quarreling over opinions. 2 Some believe in eating anything, while the weak eat only vegetables. 3 Those who eat must not despise those who abstain, and those who abstain must not pass judgment on those who eat; for God has welcomed them. 4 Who are you to pass judgment on servants of another? It is before their own lord that they stand or fall. And they will be upheld, for the Lord is able to make them stand.
5 Some judge one day to be better than another, while others judge all days to be alike. Let all be fully convinced in their own minds. 6 Those who observe the day, observe it in honor of the Lord. Also those who eat, eat in honor of the Lord, since they give thanks to God; while those who abstain, abstain in honor of the Lord and give thanks to God.
7 We do not live to ourselves, and we do not die to ourselves. 8 If we live, we live to the Lord, and if we die, we die to the Lord; so then, whether we live or whether we die, we are the Lord’s. 9 For to this end Christ died and lived again, so that he might be Lord of both the dead and the living.
10 Why do you pass judgment on your brother or sister? Or you, why do you despise your brother or sister? For we will all stand before the judgment seat of God. 11 For it is written,
“As I live, says the Lord, every knee shall bow to me,
and every tongue shall give praise to God.”
12 So then, each of us will be accountable to God.
How many of you like red grapes?
How many of you like green grapes?
How many of you do NOT like any grapes?
Red grapes, Green grapes, or no grapes – we are all children of God.
We are all children of God.
We are all children of God.
We are ALL children of God.
That last one you had some feelings about, didn’t you?
We live in an extremely divided time right now. But Paul was facing the same thing in Rome. He was trying to unite the body of Christ from getting stuck on surface issues, preferences or opinions. He was trying to unite a divisive Church into getting their priorities straight. Jesus calls us to welcome not judge. Jesus calls us to be peacemakers not quarrel over things that don’t matter in the grand scheme of things. We should put our energy in things that are life-giving not life-draining, not in winning a point in an argument that is not essential. Paul says both in living and dying, we are the Lord’s.
The old-time preacher, Donald Grey Barnhouse, tells the story of three men cast into the ocean by a plane crash. No one knows their plane has gone down. There they are, treading water, hundreds of miles from land.
One of the crash victims is a very poor swimmer. Another is a fairly good swimmer. The third is an Olympic gold-medalist.
The gold-medalist may well judge his two companions to be less-than-perfect swimmers. He may even deign to give them a few pointers on stroke and breathing, before setting off on his impossible journey toward land.
What does it matter? The poor swimmer will drown in 20 minutes; the average swimmer in two hours or so; the Olympian in 15. All of them, left to their own devices in that vast ocean, are bound to die.
No, what these men need — all three of them — is not a swimming coach. They need a savior. They need a helicopter or ship to come by and pluck them from the waves.
If all of us — as the Scriptures affirm — are sinners in need of a savior, then what sense does it make to judge others?
There are several scriptures about judging and in one of them if we judge harshly, we will be judged harshly. Matthew 7 says, “Do not judge, so that you may not be judged. For with the judgment you make you will be judged, and the measure you give will be the measure you get.”
Syngman Rhee says, “We must stand not on the judgment seat, but in the witness stand, where we witness to the saving love and work of Jesus Christ.”
Through Jesus’ grace and mercy, the only thing that saves us from God’s judgement, we are able to fully focus on the person, not our preconceived notions, assumptions, or judgments.
Did you know in The Book of Discipline, which orders the life of United Methodist Church’s, our Doctrinal History is all about this?
“This perspective is apparent in the Wesleyan understanding of “catholic spirit.” While it is true that United Methodists are fixed upon certain religious affirmations, grounded in the gospel and confirmed in their experience, they also recognize the right of Christians to disagree on matters such as forms of worship, structures of church government, modes of Baptism, or theological explorations. They believe such differences do not break the bond of fellowship that ties Christians together in Jesus Christ. Wesley’s familiar dictum was, “As to all opinions which do not strike at the root of Christianity, we think and let think.””
We think and let think. We’re not to judge how “Christian” someone is just like we’re not to see who’s the biggest sinner in our friend group? That is exhausting. Wouldn’t it be more fruitful if we nurtured our own walk with God through delving into the Word OR we live like Jesus, showing the world what he’s like, actually being his hands and feet?
Dietrich Bonhoeffer says, “By judging others we blind ourselves to our own evil and to the grace which others are just as entitled to as we are.”
Everyone’s entitled to God’s grace and is not for us to judge. That’s God’s job. Our job on Earth is to show people Jesus.
We’re not called to live in Judgment House where doors are locked and bolted; where there’s no handle on the outside of the door and you can only get in if somebody lets you in. We’re called to live in Grace and Mercy House, whose door is always open and a welcoming committee is there to greet you. And if they’re aren’t there when you enter, it’s not because you’re not welcome, it’s because they’ve gone out in search of others like you who need a place to live.
Whether we live or die, we are the Lord’s. And Jesus gives us a choice of living in the Grace and Mercy House in freedom or in bondage in the Judgment House? If we’re not judge, jury, and executioner, it gives a lot more time to be real with God’s people. When Anne Lamott first started going to her church 21 years ago, she was still drinking. So she would often show up with these extreme hangovers. She writes, “But what I would hear is these very, very old people from the South, saying: “Jesus’s only as far away as his name, he’s only as far away, call on the name of the Lord” and “He shall hear you, he shall answer, he’s only as far away as his name.”
So it might be a habit that if I said: “Jesus,” or if I just said, “hi,” there’s only one person I’m reaching to. I got into the habit of calling for, reaching out to, and then experiencing this very, very dear parental response, as a mother or father might speak in the night when the child is afraid. Say, “I’m right here, what’s up?”
We never know what people are hearing or seeing or feeling or what they’ve been through. “We must stand not on the judgment seat, but in the witness stand, where we witness to the saving love and work of Jesus Christ.” If we do that we’ll have a much more happy and fulfilled life. If we do that we’ll work to welcome the weak, welcome the lost, welcome the vulnerable. If we do that no one is put on the pedestal, except the One who should truly be there…Jesus. Vegan. Vegetarian. Carnivore. It’s all about Jesus.
So as James says, “You must understand this, my beloved: let everyone be quick to listen, slow to speak.” May we stop and pause before offering words of judgment. May we hear people’s words, stories, hearts. May we lay down all of the hatred, bitterness, angst that’s easy to spew about other people and rest in the love, mercy, and grace of Jesus. That’s one thing we can practically do this week. And when the enemy weasels its way into our head, may we call on the name of Jesus’ in whom’s grace we stand united. Amen and amen.